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I feel that I'm never good enough [message #8832] Mon, 26 January 2015 13:56 Go to next message
beachxbum718 is currently offline  beachxbum718
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I met a guy that just got out of a 7 year relationship. He took me out on dates, and we did have sex. He texted me every day and he told me he liked me a lot. One day he was acting distant and said "we need to work on your throat skills. it's called deep throat for a reason." I was hurt and stopped answering him that day and then things seemed to get a little better. Then he started acting distant again and wasn't answering me, so I went crazy and texted him 50 times. He told me he was done with me, but about a week later I reached out to him and we grabbed lunch. He told me he missed me and he paid and we didn't have sex. A few days later he told me he doesn't want a relationship, doesn't know what he wants and doesn't wanna lead me on. I asked if he had feelings for me and he said "I did have feelings, not gonna sleep with someone I don't have feelings for." About a week later I had a weak moment and asked if he wanted to have sex. Before we met up he seemed hesitant and said "I want to so badly but I don't want you throwing it in my face that all I wanted was sex from you." and then he said "I don't want you thinking this is anything more than what it is." We met up and had sex and then he asked me to go to lunch. He holds my hand and then was kissing me in the street. The next day I asked him to meet up and have sex and he said "can't have class" so I said "when can you" he said "Idk shay I'm in class can't really talk." So I asked if he wanted to still have sex with me in general, and he never answered. Later that night I apologized for even asking and he said "it's ok babe." it's been two weeks and I haven't heard from him.

1. was he just using me for sex or did he have any feelings for me?
2. why isn't he contacting me and will he ever contact me again?
3. did he not want a relationship in general, or is this my fault and he doesn't want a relationship with me?
Re: I feel that I'm never good enough [message #8834 is a reply to message #8832] Mon, 26 January 2015 22:35 Go to previous messageGo to next message
LuxeGirl is currently offline  LuxeGirl
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I'm sorry to say it sweetheart, but he sounds kind of like a douche. That deep throat comment? Really?

7 years is a LONG time to be in a relationship with someone and it sounds like he's confused and unsure of what he wants. He may have had feelings for you at one point or he might not have; you might never know.

You didn't do anything wrong. You don't know what's going on in his mind or his life. The possibilities of what's going on are endless and you'll drive yourself mad if you focus on it and try to dissect every single nuance and word that he's said during your time together. It sounds like he's pulling away for whatever reason. But try, TRY not to take it as a rejection on you or try not to let it be any reflection on you as a person. We often tie our identities into other people's opinions of us; something I'm still trying to work on too. Just try to focus on you. Be selfish. Go out and meet other people. Enjoy yourself. Indulge. Try not to pin all your hopes on one person until it's obvious that they are committed to you...
Re: I feel that I'm never good enough [message #8842 is a reply to message #8832] Mon, 02 February 2015 12:05 Go to previous message
California loveconsultant is currently offline  California loveconsultant
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I think you must move on and dnt wait for him, as he is just ignoring you dear friend.

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