What I have to do? [message #5142] |
Tue, 29 March 2011 12:35  |
Jessica Parker
Messages: 3 Registered: March 2011 Location: Gevena
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Recently one boy sent me a flirt on livedatesearch.com and I answered. Now we have TWO-WAY-MATCH.
Should I write him first or better to wait till he writes me?
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Re: What I have to do? [message #8669 is a reply to message #5142] |
Tue, 19 August 2014 17:51   |
WildOne
Messages: 3 Registered: August 2014 Location: New Jersey
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Jessica:
You need to establish for yourself what your dating goals are first and make some ground rules to follow. Ideally, would you rather have a man pursue you or do you like that role? If you want the man to pursue, always leave the ball in his court. In this case, you've send an indicator of interest, now you wait to hear from him again. Don't email or contact him first. Respond to his replies and then wait for him.
If you like the role of the pursuer, that's ok, but you will attract men who like that too and typically they will disappear as quickly as they showed up especially after they get what they want. That is just a typical scenario in that case. You being the pursuer makes it a little more difficult to know which guys will be a serious dating prospect or not. It can happen, you just have to be more observant, be on your game so to speak all the time.
If you draw the man to you and he is doing the pursuing in all the right ways, you'll know pretty quickly, if they are serious or not. They will call often, schedule regular dates. If they don't, then there's something is up with them.
Let this guy take the lead.
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Re: What I have to do? [message #8670 is a reply to message #5142] |
Tue, 19 August 2014 17:51   |
WildOne
Messages: 3 Registered: August 2014 Location: New Jersey
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Jessica:
You need to establish for yourself what your dating goals are first and make some ground rules to follow. Ideally, would you rather have a man pursue you or do you like that role? If you want the man to pursue, always leave the ball in his court. In this case, you've send an indicator of interest, now you wait to hear from him again. Don't email or contact him first. Respond to his replies and then wait for him.
If you like the role of the pursuer, that's ok, but you will attract men who like that too and typically they will disappear as quickly as they showed up especially after they get what they want. That is just a typical scenario in that case. You being the pursuer makes it a little more difficult to know which guys will be a serious dating prospect or not. It can happen, you just have to be more observant, be on your game so to speak all the time.
If you draw the man to you and he is doing the pursuing in all the right ways, you'll know pretty quickly, if they are serious or not. They will call often, schedule regular dates. If they don't, then there's something is up with them.
Let this guy take the lead.
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Re: What I have to do? [message #9400 is a reply to message #5142] |
Tue, 15 December 2015 13:23  |
Brick11Molain
Messages: 30 Registered: December 2015 Location: usa
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I believe that we build our own destiny. Everything in life happens because of or in spite of our actions. This is a destiny. So if you brought your destiny, then why not to take a chance? He likes you, you like him. It's simple. Talk.
Moreover, this is online dating. If you don't like something, you can stop the communication any time. Ban or something like that. So I advise you to act. Write.
In addition, men are very slow-witted, and good men are more often indecisive.
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