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Not my preferred dating scenario/model [message #8668] Tue, 19 August 2014 14:47 Go to next message
WildOne is currently offline  WildOne
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I am a firm believer in the thinking that if a guy wants a girl, she knows it. But, one of the guys I am currently seeing, is someone I've developed a real interest in even though he's not coming at me the usual way. The situation is that since we met, he's only called every 5-6 days apart. Usually to just touch base. And the 3 "meet ups" we've had over the course of a month and a 1/2 have been short-notice and were long, 6-7 hours and he paid. He has been working nights since we'd met and so the time to call/see each other has been limited. He also plays on a golf league on Saturday mornings and spends every other Sunday afternoon with his grandson. So, I've been lenient so to speak about it. Usually, I'd have moved on by now. But, he seems like a stand up guy based on all our conversations.

So, Saturday night, we got together and it was 1:30 am when we decided to go home. We were not drunk, by the way Smile Anyway, he walks me to his car and says to me "I want to take this to another level with you". Now, mind you I'm tired now (whihc would be a reason for keeping dates shorter) and probably not thinking on my feet as well as I could have. Nevertheless, I just said, I'd like that and recapped my schedule. We'd been talking about that earlier. Now, in my mind, my idea of the next level from what we'd been doing, would be a more formal dating scenario, more frequent calls (once or twice a week), more frequent/scheduled dates.

I'm kicking myself for not using that opportunity to let him know what my dating goals are and what another level means to me. It's not a lost cause, the door is still open, I've just delayed it. Nevertheless, the thought crossed my mind, that maybe he was thinking about that moment -- he wanted a more passionate kiss than we'd had before or go back to his place. But his actions didn't come across that way. My answer gave a green light for something else anyway. But he simply moved in and gave a kiss that was more than a peck but less than passionate and he came in for the same thing a second time when I opened my car door to get in.

The reason I'm confused here is that I've never been asked for just a kiss with that specific statement/question. That specific statement/question has always been about exclusivity or engagement, marriage. Do you guys use that kind of statement for a way to get more passionate in some way? Usually a guy just goes for it and I will return it if I want that or I'll purse my lips or turn my cheek.

I am going to wait until he calls me again and address it then. I'm sure he knew what he mean't and doesn't know I'm confused about it. But, I'm still wondering if I just missed the cue for that moment.

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Re: Not my preferred dating scenario/model [message #8843 is a reply to message #8668] Mon, 02 February 2015 12:07 Go to previous message
California loveconsultant is currently offline  California loveconsultant
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just wait for him and dnt pay so much attention. if he will be very serious to you he will surely contact you. u must not show that you are desperate about him.

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