| She gave her address to a guy she met at the pool... [message #8760] |
Fri, 21 November 2014 05:37  |
Musicguy
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My girlfriend moved closeby after a 9 month, mostly long- distance romance. We've been committed (her idea) most of that time. She moved in with a good female friend of mine. When my girlfriend was at the clubhouse pool she met a guy who told her his wife was out of town, he has lots of money, and does she need help with anything? Oh, and he provided her with his address, as she related all this to me. The whole thing made me a little uneasy, but I didn't say anything because just talking to a guy is no big deal. At least it wasn't until he showed up at her condo! Turns out that she had provided him her address too, although she neglected to tell me that tidbit. My girlfriend wasn't home but her roomie was, who immediately texted me saying the guy was "definitely looking for action".
I promptly dumped her. If she's going to be in a monogamous relationship with me, but still act like a single girl, with a married guy to boot, how can I trust her with my heart? Some of my friends think I overreacted, including her roomie, who now thinks this guy is the best thing since sliced bread. All I know is that I'm hurting, I can't trust her, and my friends think I'm a jealous jerk.
Thoughts?
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| Re: She gave her address to a guy she met at the pool... [message #8793 is a reply to message #8760] |
Fri, 26 December 2014 08:06  |
dating_thoughts
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I'm sorry to hear your situation, it sounds a tricky situation. I'm not expert although if you want her back and/or want try the relationship again you're probably going to need to talk to her. Explain why you acted as you did if you feel you are justified in the way you acted at the time. But her actions obviously have you cause for concern so ask her some questions, give her the opportunity to explain the situation. The fact that she's not told you certain aspects which you've found out yourself could mean this had caused you to not trust her and tell her this as she may have a valid reason for the situation. Things can also look a bit strange when taken out of context. At the same time it sounds like perhaps you're trust in her had been shaken so you both may need a little time to move on from this. Hope it goes ok
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| Re: She gave her address to a guy she met at the pool... [message #9338 is a reply to message #8760] |
Wed, 02 December 2015 12:48 |
NickLox1
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Jealousy and envy are two of the most common--yet negative and useless--emotions many of us have. For a long time, I let both of these destructive feelings overwhelm and poison me. Jealous is not a good thing, you know. Don't waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. But I still can't understand whether jealousy can be a positive thing... like white lie.. What do you think, guys?
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| Re: She gave her address to a guy she met at the pool... [message #10005 is a reply to message #8760] |
Sun, 25 February 2018 22:37 |
kaitlynlily6
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Sorry to hear about your situation. In my opinion, you should hear her explanation first, could be that the guy just found or knew her address from someone/somewhere else. If it's true that she gave her address to the guy and hid it from you then best to move on. It's hard to be in a relationship where you can't trust a partner.
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