| I told her I just want to be friends but I don't [message #9742] |
Fri, 05 August 2016 07:32  |
salben
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Registered: August 2016
Location: AZ
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Hey everyone,
So I got myself in a tricky situation. I am new to dating. I told the girl that I just want to be friends. I called her on the phone. She was grateful that I did and accepted my decision. The truth is, I only said it because I thought that it is what she feels. And in order to not get hurt from her saying that SHE just wants to be friends, I did it. BUT when I talked to her on the phone she actually didn't feel the way I thought she felt, she actually wanted a relationship with me. So I want to reverse the process and don't know how to do it!
I really like this girl a ton, a little too much to be honest. We dated 3 times already. The 3rd time she came over to my place. We didn't have sex even though she clearly gave me signs to initiate it, but I thought it was too early and would ruin the relationship.
I would appreciate your help 
Ben
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| Re: I told her I just want to be friends but I don't [message #9766 is a reply to message #9742] |
Tue, 13 September 2016 11:36  |
GerardGold
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Salben, from the point of view of a girl she would be disappointed if she was into you and you pulled back. The faster you admit to her that you actually were feeling strongly about her but simply were too shy to admit it, the better.
Strong relationships don't depend on the date number when you had sex but mostly on how strongly want to be together. Quite often in a research about dating they cannot say what leads to what: What was first, the chicken or the egg. Less than a half of research that is published can ever be replicated, i.e. other people get to the same results by asking the same questions. So, one research, especially in a foreign country (or even in a different city than yours), cannot predict what will happen in your particular case. To be universal, results have to be independent on the country and location, and dating surveys are highly dependent on where and how the results were obtained.
Admitting your vulnerability, the fact that you are really into her, helps to build a more trusting relationship, especially if a girl showed her interested clearly.
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