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21 and never been in a relationship or barely hit on by men-what to do? [message #9744] Tue, 09 August 2016 18:37 Go to next message
uhunny is currently offline  uhunny
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I am a 21 year old women and I have never had a boyfriend before. Likewise, I feel like men barely hit on me or approach me. I don't know if it is mainly because of my location (I am from a small rural town in the south) but attend college in a mid sized southern city. I visit my hometown a lot. People say I have a babyface (because of my cheekbones) and that I look like I could be 12-14 years old. Even when I go to some events and festivals, people do not hand out flyers to me because I guess they think I am 'very young'. I am slim; I am 5'6 and weigh 125 pounds.

I have only had one older guy approach me when I was 16 years old (I was in Las Vegas) and he told me I was beautiful. Likewise, when I would visit NYC and walk around, men who I did not know would call me beautiful. And one time when I was walking around my college town, a guy said to me 'hello beautiful lady'. I also visited upstate NYC and was surprised when two different taxi driver's also called me beautiful. I feel like when men say this to me, they are not necessarily hitting on me, but rather trying to compliment me (but I mean, I could be wrong?) because they never go further than to compliment me (for example, they never ask for my phone number or seem like they are trying to pursue me). I mean, I have never had a guy pursue me or ask for my phone number. Every once in a blue moon, a guy might stare (and sometimes I stare back) but he doesn't do anything or he just ends up looking away. Even old men in their 50's and up never approach me (even though I would never be with a guy that age, I would be flattered that at least someone approaches me).

I need advice on what I should do in order to get dates? I get worried because I have never dated and I want the experience because I am only getting older. Plus, my family members pressure me all the time and ask me why I do not have a boyfriend yet. At the same time, I do not know if I am overreacting and that I should let life take its course.

Re: 21 and never been in a relationship or barely hit on by men-what to do? [message #9745 is a reply to message #9744] Wed, 10 August 2016 10:42 Go to previous message
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Your desire to date men depends how you treat men like as. If you are good looking the no need to worry you will be mostly attracted by men. Its your identical choice to choose them or not.
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