| 1.5 month of dating but still on Tinder [message #10148] |
Mon, 19 August 2019 04:58  |
Joanne12
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Registered: August 2019
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Hello All,
1.5 month ago I met a guy on Tinder. In his bio he stated he is not looking for ONS/FWB. Since we met he was contacting me every day, we met each other 6 times. He offered me help when I was moving, was asking about my day etc.
However, from the beginning he seemed to not remember some stuff, e.g. on second date he said we were on a date in the city centre (we were not), we were discussing the same topic twice, he forgot where I go fot the weekend etc. It made me quite insecure and I was not sure if he's into me. Also from the 4th date we were kissing, holding hands etc. but I felt from the on our "relationship" was more about physical aspect not much about emotional depth. I told him I am concerned about it and he said he wants us to work on it and give it a shot. However, later on I noticed he use Tinder frequently (location is updated everywhere he goes) and I told him that maybe we should focus on two of us if we want to make this relationship work. He said he is not talking or seeing anyone. Then I asked about Tinder.. he said he's using it out of boredom but he can remove the app if want. We were talking over texts as he was abroad at the time. After 2 days he said we need to trust each other if we want to work it out, that he was using Tinder monstly to see my pictures and we need to make the decision and discuss our boundaries.
I am worried that he may be playing me, especially that after 2 days he told me different reason for using Tinder (for me if he's using it, it means he is unsure and wants to keep his options open). Now he is not using the app anymore but I told him that maybe it will be better if we stop seeing each other. What do you think?
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| Re: 1.5 month of dating but still on Tinder [message #10233 is a reply to message #10148] |
Tue, 12 May 2020 14:02  |
Lover88
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That is true, it seems he is not that much into you or may be he just isn't sure if you are. You have to set up your standarts I think and check if he will be happy to give up his old life and fully concentrate on you. Check Volikov test, there's loyalty as a characteristic. That how you can assume if he has a tendency to cheat or not.
I love myself but only as a friend
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